By Jay Lieberman
I spent the last 15 years trying to get to and from somewhere as fast as humanly possible.
Then, in what seemed like an instant flash of time, those years flew off the calendar and all I was left with were pieces of a puzzle, memories to try and put back together – the chaotic frenzy of daily life.
Let me back up about four years ago. I came to a massive realization from an odd source.
I’m a superfan of the show ‘The Office.’ I have binge watched the entire 9 seasons multiple times, know just about every line of every episode, and identify with a lot of the characters.
During the finale episodes, as the cast is reminiscing about old times, Andy Bernard, played by actor Ed Helms, says something directly to the camera, that was so powerful, so thought provoking, that each time that episode runs I have to play it a few times back to soak it in.
“I wish there was a way to know you’re in the good old days before you’ve actually left them.”
You see, I realize now that when I was in my 30’s, it was all about the rush. Get to the soccer game. Run to the dance recital. Grab dinner quickly on your way home. Carpool 100 kids to the birthday parties. Run the kids to and from school. Work all day and sometimes all night. Hop on and off planes for work.
I know we all have pictures, albums and videos of this stuff. Taken with care during the games and parties with the sincere hope to preserve those special events. But, maybe like you, mine are in a box somewhere, a hassle to get to and in most cases I don’t have the right plug or wire to play the videos anyway.
This really does nothing to bring those important memories back.
Now that my focus has somewhat changed over the last few years, from my kids on my shoulders at Disneyland to now monitoring their incredible progress as they enter adulthood, I’ve had a chance to reflect.
Time to form the memories back together – like a million piece puzzle.
Time to figure out and realize that those were the ‘Good Old Days.’
Now, every day I am breathing and able to suck down a cup of Starbucks coffee is a great day.
What I’m talking about here is the grouping of rushed time we all wish we could have slowed down and paid more attention to.
I don’t know how easy that would have been though, even if I knew then what I know now.
Honestly, I’m not sure that we are meant to slow it down.
Maybe it’s supposed to fly by so that later in life we can realize how important that time really was.
Nevertheless, I pay more attention now to the day, the night and the time in between. The short Facetime calls we have with Alex at college and the talks I have with Caiti about life.
I take every moment in and relish it the best I can, hoping that someday I won’t have to look back on my 40’s and say the same thing I did about my 20’s and 30’s.
I’m learning now that every day is a Good Old Day and I am taking it one mental picture at a time.
ABOUT THEM – Jay & Michelle Lieberman have been called “provocative and entertaining,” but also “committed philanthropists”. Entrepreneurs and relentless innovators of the real estate industry, creators of the “Value-Driven Approach to Sell Real Estate”, founders of the Conejo Valley Teacher Only Program, hosts of the Conejo Valley Advice Givers Podcast Show, and attorneys and real estate brokers at Keller Williams World Class in Southern California. They feel honored and blessed every day they are able to serve their clients, their family, friends and their community. You can reach them at info@TeamJayMichelle.com.