Goals And Resolutions Are Doomed For Failure Without A Foundation Of Systems Behind Them
By Jay Lieberman
The other day a buddy of mine stopped me just outside my office door and said, “Hey Jay, what’s your big new year’s resolution this year?”
“I don’t have one,” I responded.
“What do you mean you don’t have one? Everyone has a new year’s resolution,” he said.
“Nope, never make ‘em.”
And with that, he smiled, turned around and walked. I love when that happens.
He was confused. Obviously wondering how in the hell I get anything done each year.
I have never really paid attention to January 1st. It’s just as arbitrary to me as November 12th, February 2nd or June 24th. All the same. Another day.
This little exchange, however, made me think about the fact that new year’s resolutions and goals are shit by themselves. They are meaningless. They are meant to be tossed aside as failures, likely to crumble no later than January 31st.
I’m not the only one to see it this way.
Statistic Brain, a research and data collection company, recently published an article on the topic of new year’s resolutions. They surveyed 1,840 people about the resolutions they made for 2016. The top 5 comprised well over half of the responses. Not surprisingly in the areas of weight loss, self-improvement, finances, quitting smoking and doing more exciting things.
Are you ready for the results?
About 9% of people overall believed they achieved their resolutions.
Yeah, you are reading that right. Nine-Percent! Wow. Real shitty odds.
You would think they would do something different. But most don’t. Most continue on the track of stupidity. Laying out a goal and setting a ridiculous start date as if the world is starting over on January 1st each year.
I asked another friend of mine the other day what she thinks of these yearly resolutions. She is funny as hell and painfully honest so I was preparing for a special answer here.
She said she loves them, but admittedly fails at most, pointing at her muffin top. Her words, not mine.
There was something she said that made me have one soft spot of acceptance of new year’s resolutions.
She told me that she sees her resolutions at the beginning of the year as a type of confession in church. Even if she doesn’t start them, let alone complete them, she says it helps her mentally focus on change.
Now that I understand. If it is about mindset shifting, then I get it.
But, I think she is not the norm.
Most blindly decide on a new course of action without thinking it through. With no tools.
Just as ridiculous as deciding to travel to the moon and later realizing you don’t have a rocket ship to get there.
This leads to inevitable failure, regret, unhappiness, larger muffin tops. All spiraling out of control.
Let me ask you a question…a way to demonstrate why I distaste new year’s resolutions so much.
Would you make an investment where you only have a 9% chance of getting your money back? Those are the odds folks.
It’s really that simple to me.
So, now that I have torn new year’s resolutions apart from the core out, you may be wondering what I do to achieve my goals.
Let me illustrate how I go about achieving my goals, which is really what resolutions are all about, right? About setting a goal and achieving it.
It is not the concept I have a problem with. It is the methods used to get there.
Towards the middle of 2015 I decided I wanted to start a podcast show to interview local business owners and community leaders at the beginning of 2016. I started planning months before. Studying, researching, reading, reaching out to mentors with experience in this area. Listening to hours and hours of other podcast hosts, learning their style, cadence, tone, content structure. Methodically putting all the pieces in place. It felt like building the largest Lego set imaginable with missing pieces..
I did not simply say the goal out loud and then hope and pray for the best.
I put in 100’s of hours to learn all the processes in the proper order so I would actually start the show with a sprint at the beginning of 2016 and keep it going.
The goal was not to start a show. It was to start a show and continue it indefinitely.
This culminated into 187 separate steps that we follow to produce each episode.
If I just blindly went to Guitar Center and bought a microphone, without any of the work behind it, there is no way I would have made it past episode three.
The blood, sweat and tears behind the production of the systems for the show is the actual work involved for the goal, not just the idea of the goal.
The result…as of this publication date, we have aired shows every week in 2016, only missing one week over the holidays (intentionally), and are now over 51 episodes strong and just getting started.
Resolutions and goals without systems are shit and that is why such a high percentage of them fail, and fail quickly.
Goals and resolutions are a dime a dozen. They are easy things to get fired up about as you pound your third plate of ham or turkey at your Christmas or Hanukkah dinners.
But, once you wake up from your holiday food coma, you will have found that your goals for the New Year have no structure to build upon, operate and actually give you a chance at success.
Take a different approach this year. Set a mid-year goal and start laying the foundation and systems now. The real work. You will be shocked at how your chances of success skyrocket.
ABOUT THEM – Jay & Michelle Lieberman have been called “provocative and entertaining,” but also “committed philanthropists”. Entrepreneurs and relentless innovators of the real estate industry, creators of the “Value-Driven Approach to Sell Real Estate”, founders of the Conejo Valley Teacher Only Program, hosts of the Conejo Valley Advice Givers Podcast Show, and attorneys and real estate brokers at Keller Williams World Class in Southern California. They feel honored and blessed every day they are able to serve their clients, their family, friends and their community. You can reach them at info@TeamJayMichelle.com.